Over the past few weeks, we’ve looked at four different types of leaders. Specifically, the focus has been on how leaders communicate. Each leadership style uses language to a particular end.
Visionaries communicate in order to share a vision and inspire the team to reach high.
Captains communicate to define goals, clarify job-roles, and provide accountability.
Mentors communicate in order to share knowledge and expand the skill sets of others.
Cheerleaders communicate in order to encourage, recognize, and reassure those around them.
The most effective leaders don’t rely on just one style of communication. The best leaders understand that they have to adopt different leadership styles depending on the people and circumstances they find around them. You may identify strongly with one style; but you can’t just rely on a single mode of communication and lead adequately.
For instance, I’m very comfortable communicating as a Visionary leader. I love talking to people about what’s possible and dreaming up solutions to problems. But if that’s all I do – if that’s the only thing I talk about – I’m not going to be an effective leader. I have to balance my communication across all four of the styles we’ve explored.
Visionaries have to step back from dreaming and help people develop the skills they need to achieve those dreams. So I have to communicate like a Mentor. People need to understand how their role fits into the big picture that I’ve drawn for them and be given a specific role to play. That means I have to communicate like a Captain. And people like to be recognized. Who wants to work in a world where there’s no reward for effort? So, even though it’s not my natural tendency, I have to communicate like a Cheerleader.
This is why true leadership is so hard. You have to work at it to be good at it. Even then, you never really feel like you’re as effective as you could be…or should be. Effective leaders are always trying to communicate more effectively. They’re never satisfied with their own performance.
So there’s yet one more way leaders communicate. They ask questions.
“What do you need from me?’
“How can I help?”
“What do you think?”
“How can we improve this?”
“What should I be doing better?”
When leaders speak, they generally ask questions. They lead us to get involved and leave us having learned as much from us as we have from them. Take a moment and think about your communication style. Do you ask enough questions? Do you seek out input on your own improvement? Do you value the words of others more than your own?
That’s how leaders communicate.
If there’s one message that I hope you received through this series, it’s this: You are a leader.
Every single one of us is born with the capacity for leadership. But not everyone chooses to make use of this gift. Actually, most people never do. They go through life wishing they were a leader, or bemoaning the lack of adequate leadership around them. Worst yet are those who understand what they are capable of, but decide to ignore this natural ability.
I hope you’ve thought about your own leadership style this month and how your communication patterns influence the people around you. We don’t need more leaders, we already have enough. They’re all around us. What we need are men and women who make the choice to lead.
Leadership is not a position. It is a choice.
There is a leader within you. It’s not something you have to go to school for, or a degree you earn from any University. No, you were born with leadership skills. You may choose to undergo training in order to develop your leadership ability, but make no mistake – the aptitude is there. All you have to do is choose to be a leader.
There is a leader within you. Some people believe that unless you have an official title, you can’t be a leader. But authority does not equal leadership. Titles have nothing to do with it. In fact, some of the greatest leaders I have ever known never supervised anyone. They simply chose to tap into their natural leadership ability – the same ability that lies within each of us.
There is a leader within you. Some people believe that leadership is a rare gift; that only a few are born with the raw material necessary to lead others. I don’t. I believe there’s a leader inside each and every one of us. We just have to choose to activate the potential we already have.
There is a leader within you. In fact, I believe the traits of four distinct leaders are hard-wired into your DNA. Whether you believe it or not, you were born with the capacity to lead others. Some people choose to ignore this ability, while others do what they can to develop and harness it. It’s my desire to help as many people as possible tap into this extraordinary gift. Our families, teams, and communities are desperately hungry for empowering leaders.
I’m constantly amazed at how ill-prepared people are for meetings. It doesn’t matter what the meeting is about, who’s in attendance, or what their particular role is – someone always shows up having not done their homework. In my opinion, a lack of preparation indicates a level of disrespect for the organization, the task at hand, and other peoples’ time. It also makes you look foolish.
It goes without saying that regular communication between you and your manager is one sign of a healthy relationship. Ongoing, meaningful conversations are necessary to maintain your connection and ability to “read” each other. When you and your boss are in sync, work is smoother, more efficient, and more productive.
There’s no shortage of advice for managers out there. Scores of books have been written about managing employees, leading great service, and working with outside entities. It’s easy to find articles, videos, and even live training events focused on these topics. But when it comes to working with your boss, what’s called “managing up,” there’s little help to be found. A few are blessed with a relationship where communication flows freely and minds seem to be in sync. Most have to stumble their way through, approaching each interaction with a mixture of anticipation and dread.
Addressing conflict is one of the key responsibilities of a leader. It’s not a fun job; in fact it’s often quite messy. Nevertheless, it has to be done in order for a team or organization to operate effectively. Conflict rarely resolves itself. While things may eventually seem to smooth out on the surface, there are always scars. Poorly handled conflict results in missed growth opportunities, the loss of top performers, and an unstable environment for those left behind.
In the course of history, a lot of very smart, successful people have made statements that, in hindsight, seem rather silly. Given their position, expertise, and experience, they felt comfortable making predictions that proved untrue. Consider these examples: